Most parents have a complete blind spot when it comes to their own generosity, kindness, and respect towards their own children, and yet they expect their children to be altruistic at all times. This is utterly crazy-making for children. It absolutely forces children to create false selves and perform for their parents, everyone else, and even themselves. There is another way! We can learn to open to the pain and even “acting out” of our kids, and help them learn about their underlying need. We